“Most of us don’t listen with the intent to understand. We listen with the intent to reply” – Stephen Covey
Guilty. There are times I’ve been so wrapped up in what to say next, it’s taken a conscious effort to truly hear what the other person is saying.
It actually reminds me of being in Primary (elementary) school and putting my hand up to answer the teacher’s question, whether one was coming or not.
What I’ve found though, is an almost tangible difference in conversations when I’ve moved from getting my response ready, to being fully present while the other person speaks.
The benefits of taking this approach are immense and often help me understand the emotion behind what is said, hear the words that aren’t being spoken, and build a deeper connection with the person I’m talking with.
It’s something I’m working hard at doing, and I’d encourage you to give it a go. The next time you’re getting your reply ready, take a moment to truly understand what the other person is saying, and see if you experience the same benefits.
Another tool for your Big Life Mindset toolbox.